and by 1978, jean man fred found herself unwittingly the leader of a movement. >> the most important thing is love and understanding. and of course, when the parents come, they're full of guilt. there is shame, they don't want to tell the neighbors. and we try to relax them. we can understand their initial surprise. and -- but we try to let them know that homosexuality is just another shade of sexuality. it is no better or worse. our children are as good as anybody's. and we love our children. and all the parents love their children. and there is certainly the most important thing in our lives is to see that our children are happy. and i don't care what people know, personally, because my son is more important to me than the gossip that might go around the neighborhood or among people. and people, my friends, i have many who respect me and understand. and they feel as i do. they respect my son, and they, in fact -- when they see things that are not right, they will write to protest. because they realize that i have helped educate them, and they are educating other people. >> that was